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37 Ways to Feel Like You’re Pretty Hot Stuff

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“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.” -Audrey Hepburn

This list is a compilation of my own thoughts and suggestions from friends.

  1. Smile– On days where I don’t feel pretty, I stand in front of the mirror and smile at myself until I decide I have a pretty smile. Then I toss my hair around (Glinda style) and pose in front of the mirror like I’m at a photo shoot.mirror
  2. Tell somebody else they’re beautiful– Better yet, tell every girl you know she’s beautiful. As girls we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others that we tend to forget… Beauty isn’t a competition. The better you become at recognizing beauty in others, the better you become at recognizing it in yourself.
  3. Give yourself a pep talk– I discovered this video awhile back, and I’m a little in love with it. I love how enthusiastic she is about building herself up.
  4. Be thankful– One of the things that I love about Jessica’s pep talk is that a lot of the things she says aren’t even about her. Grateful people are happy people. Happy people are more beautiful.
  5. Dance– Not in front of people. Well, if you can dance maybe dance in front of people. If you’re me it’s better to do it in private. Still, there’s nothing wrong with waltzing around your basement in the middle of the night.dance
  6. Go somewhere beautiful– To me there’s something about being in the open air that makes me think clearer. It’s peaceful. But there are other places I feel more beautiful. Our environment affects a lot about the way we think. Put yourself in a good environment.
  7. Listen to your pump up song– Everyone needs to have a song that just makes them feel good. Some of mine include “All the Right Moves” by OneRepublic, “These Two Hands” by Hana Pestle, and “King of Anything” by Sara Bareilles. Listen to it. And if you’re really feeling it, sing along at the top of your lungs.
  8. Geek out– Everyone has something kinda silly they’re just really in to. For me it’s superheroes and vintage hairstyles (not necessarily at the same time). You’ll feel more beautiful when you’re proud of your geekiness. Don’t be guilty about your guilty pleasures. Love what you love!
  9. Get dressed– Get dressed in the morning even if you’re not going anywhere. Take time to pick out an outfit you really like. Shower. Brush your teeth. Do your hair. You’ll feel much more ready to face the day.
  10. Get dressed up– Sometimes I like to wear a dress just because. Actually, sometimes I’ll go to a store just to try on dresses. Not even to buy one, just to try them on and twirl in front of a mirror (I happen to be a fan of dresses where the skirts flare out when I spin).
  11. Spend a little extra time on yourself– I like to paint my nails. A friend recommended plucking her eyebrows. This isn’t about taking time to fix imperfections. It’s about reminding yourself that you’re worth the effort.
  12. Do something girly– Wear perfume. Put ribbons in your hair. Wear something lacy. Cry while watching a chick flick. It’s ok to be girly. I like to put on super red lipstick. That kinda has to do with the whole vintage thing…
  13. Strut– I like to wear high heels. Sometimes I’ll wear them even if I’m just going to the grocery store. I can pull off wearing shoes with such a high heel that they’re more like frilly stilts than shoes. And I love it. Sometimes when I’m done trying on dresses I go find the most ridiculous heels I can and walk around in them. But whether you’re wearing your super pumps or your ratty old sneakers, you can hold yourself with confidence.
  14. Work out– Don’t work out because you hate your body and want to change it. Work out because you love your body and want to take care of it. And find a workout you enjoy. If you don’t like running, you don’t have to run. Try something else. Lift weights, cycle, do Zumba. Find an exercise that works for you.
  15. Eat fruit– I don’t have a logical reason for this. Like yeah it goes along with taking care of yourself. But I feel cuter eating strawberries than green beans. Maybe that’s just me. Or maybe that’s just because I don’t actually like green beans very much.
  16. Stretch– take a minute in the morning to stretch. It’ll wake you up and help you start your day.
  17. Buy yourself flowers– There’s  a common misconception that you have to wait for a boy to give you flowers. Not true. I love flowers, so I buy them for myself on special occasions. Although if there are any guys out there who want to buy me flowers, I’d be cool with that too…
  18. Talk to your feel good person– everyone should have a person that just makes them feel good. If you don’t, find one. And the best way to find one is to be one (see number 2).
  19. Wear a facial mask or do a hand scrub– Preferably with friends. Again, this is about taking care of yourself. And who doesn’t like how soft your skin feels after?
  20. Give yourself some alone time– sometimes we just need a chance to be by ourselves and regather our composure. That’s ok.
  21. De-stress– If you’re busy, stressed, and overwhelmed it’s easy to become frustrated with yourself and feel like you’ll never measure up to the number of tasks that need to be completed. Take a second to breathe and remind yourself that it’s all going to work out.
  22. Spend time with children– Their simple view on life will refresh you.
  23. Serve– Doing something nice will prevent you from thinking about yourself too much. And it will just make you feel good.
  24. Pray– God loves you. And He’s willing to remind you if you give Him the chance.princess
  25. Forgive- Let go of grudges. They weigh you down and make it hard for focus on being your best self.
  26. Move forward– It’s not enough to forgive others. We also have to forgive ourselves. Don’t dwell on past mistakes. It’s time to move on and love who you are now.
  27. Focus on your favorite features– We all have things we don’t love about our appearances. But we should also have things we do like. When you look in the mirror, focus on the things you DO like. For example: “Dang Kyra! Your hair is so long and curly and beautiful. Girl, you look fine!” Tell yourself something like that. Except use your name instead of mine.
  28. Be aware of media’s effect on you– You know the media is full of idealized images. You know that can affect your self esteem. If you’re exposed to media that makes you feel bad about yourself, turn it off!barbie
  29. Replace bad media with good media– Watch something with characters that inspire you. Like for me, I get excited every time I watch Lord of the Rings and Eowyn has that scene where she pulls of her mask with the whole “I am no man!” line. It gets me pumped up and makes me want to run out and take on the world.
  30. Get comfortable with your body– Spend time in your underwear. Don’t be afraid of what you look like when you’re undressed.
  31. Do something you love– Practice an instrument. Play a sport. Get artsy. Whatever your thing is, do it.
  32. Be productive– When you get things done, you’ll feel better about yourself. You just will.
  33. Find a real life role model– Find somebody who inspires you, especially somebody who excels in a field you’re interested in. And let your role model be somebody who’s not just good at what they do but somebody who’s does good.
  34. Let boys open doors for you– Especially if you’re on a date. Maybe it’s old fashioned. But I think most guys are still willing, eager even, to open your door. Not because you can’t open the door for yourself. Because you deserve to be treated with respect.
  35. Respect others– This goes right along with number 2 as well. Treat the people around you well. You’ll be better at treating yourself with respect too.
  36. Expect others to treat you right– How you let others treat you says a lot about how you feel about yourself.
  37. Treat yourself rightlove yourself

Mandatory Outrage toward Abercrombie and Fitch

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You’ve probably already heard about the ridiculous statement made by the Abercrombie and Fitch CEO. Everyone (and by everyone I mean Ellen Degeneres) is talking about it.

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Here’s the quote from CEO Mike Jeffries:

“In every school there are the cool and popular kids, and then there are the not-so-cool kids. Candidly, we go after the cool kids. We go after the attractive all-American kid with a great attitude and a lot of friends. A lot of people don’t belong (in our clothes), and they can’t belong. Are we exclusionary? Absolutely. Those companies that are in trouble are trying to target everybody: young, old, fat, skinny.”

There are plenty of ways one could go about attacking this statement. But perhaps the biggest flaw with the entire Abercrombie mentality is the misconception that largeness is inherently unattractive and uncool.

Abercrombie and Fitch can’t be blamed as the only voice passing along this propaganda. Plenty of people have been spreading the message that skinny is the only beautiful there is. And perhaps the only thing worse than the fact that the people perpetuating the lies believe it, is the fact that the people they target believe it.

Regardless of what size you are, your body is a miracle. Your joints allow an impressive range of motion. Your immune system protects from literally countless assailants. Your heart beats roughly 35 million times a year, supplying blood to a brain that sorts through an onslaught of stimuli and reacts by directing your limbs to move. And that only scratches the surface of what your body is capable of. You’re a living, breathing miracle.

That said, I think it’s important to take care of your body. But most of the women who diet and hit the gym are not motivated by a desire to be healthy, but rather by a desire to be skinny. And if they fail to achieve that standard, they fall into the trap of thinking they’re ugly or worthless.

So here’s the real truth: you are beautiful. Gorgeous, in fact. Your body may not be perfect. I know mine isn’t. Love it anyway; it’s the only one you’ve got.

As Selena Gomez might put it, "I'm no beauty queen. I'm just beautiful me."

As Selena Gomez might put it, “I’m no beauty queen. I’m just beautiful me.”