Around the end of the year, people generally start thinking about how they want to improve their lives in the upcoming year. As a fan of self improvement, I’ve always sort of enjoyed this process. Which isn’t to say that I’ve always done a good job keeping New Years’ resolutions. But I think whether or not you reach your goals, making them can be valuable.
However, this year I’ve struggled with coming up with 2017 resolutions. To be honest, 2016 has left me sort of exhausted. It’s been a rough year for a number of reasons. It’s also been a busy year for me. I finished my MA, moved to a new state, started a PhD program, taught three different classes, continued my freelance editing business, and wrote or revised seven drafts of different novels.
So I’ve decided my goal for 2017 is actually to slow down a little, smell roses and whatnot. I want to spend less time worrying about things I haven’t done yet and more time appreciating all the good things in my life.
With that in mind, I’m going to end 2016 by reflecting on a few things I’ve learned through this crazy, roller coaster year.
- It’s never too soon to start being one of the heroes you grew up reading about.
- We all need to spend more time listening to people who are different from us.
- You are a good looking human being. If anybody tries to tell you otherwise, that person is a stupid head.
- Sometimes people will give you conflicting advice, and you just need to do the best you can.
- If somebody is trying to convince you that something you love is stupid, you should probably just throw glitter in their face and waltz into the sunset because you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
- “I never look back, darling. It distracts from the now.” -Edna Mode, The Incredibles
- Don’t date anyone who treats you like a side quest. You are a main quest.
- It doesn’t matter how nice you are. Sometimes people will still be mean to you.
- Always make sure you have a solid foundation. Especially if you are a Christmas tree.
- Attacking problems with kindness and positivity is great, but certain problems just need to be kicked in the shins.
- It’s good to laugh, and it’s good not to take yourself too seriously.
- There really is a Taylor Swift song for every occasion.
- You don’t need to be perfect to be worthwhile, and neither do the things you create.
- The family that wears fake mustaches together stays together.
- Do the thing you are terrified of. But wear protective gear while doing it.
- Spend a little time every day encouraging other people.
- Your emotions are valid and important.
- You should dance, even if you’re bad at it (and I am really, really, really bad at it).
- “Just think, while you’ve been getting down and out about the liars and the dirty, dirty cheats of the world, you could have been getting down to THIS. SICK. BEAT.” -Taylor Swift, Shake it Off
- If you’re stuck, maybe you just need to kick through a door.
- You can fix just about anything with duct tape. Including the door you just kicked through. And if you use colorful duct tape, it will be extra fabulous.
- It’s good to know your limitations, but sometimes you should ignore them anyway.
- “Take chances! Make mistakes! Get messy!” -Ms. Frizzle, The Magic School Bus
- The days when you realize things are worse than you thought they were are also the days where you realize that you’re stronger than you thought you were.
- You’re doing better than you think you are, so keep it up!
- It’s gonna be okay.